When I was a kid, I was taught to respect people and act accordingly. I was taught to be gentle, loving, and sensitive to women. But culture also taught me that women are insecure about their looks. That a woman’s … Continue reading The Cultural Injustice Of Women
For my last post in this format of creative non-fiction and self-discovery, I thought it might be nice to sum up what I’ve learned thus far. What I’ve learned is this: When one chooses to be unapologetically, unashamedly themselves, it’s not … Continue reading The Cost Of Living Differently
When I was a kid, I was taught in church that doubt was bad. It wasn’t so much directly taught, but rather implied by the words and actions of those in leadership. Doubt was considered this thing you experience when … Continue reading Accepting A Life Of Doubt
In what has become the most difficult year of my entire life, the theme throughout this year is that I was very much alone in facing each part. No one was there for me during the hardest and darkest parts. Not because no one wanted to be, but because I felt that I needed to deal with it alone. It was during this time that I stopped being afraid of life, and started embracing a story of adventure, while becoming acquainted with the relentless survivor buried beneath all the fear and self-loathing. 2016 may have been the worst year, but 2017 will be the first year. The first year of many where I actually live. Continue reading The Lonely Pilgrimage
When we stop to consider the constants of life, we are drawn to the table. We eat multiple times a day, but for many of us, the constant was the dinner table. The place where we all come to share in the act of nourishment for our bodies, while feeding our souls with the company and conversations of our loved ones. It’s no surprise that during this time of year, this is the place we return to when we want to express our thankfulness for life, and all that is in it.
But is there more to it?
Continue reading A Seat At The Table
Ever wonder why you can’t seem to be happy doing what you’re doing? That job just isn’t what you thought it’d be. That new city isn’t as great as it seemed to be. Sure you make good money, or have a nice place, or do cool things, but something is still missing. Is there something wrong with you? Or are you just meant for something more? Continue reading What If You Were Meant For More?
The title of this blog is incomplete on purpose. The full title should read “love yourself or no one will know how to love you.” People love us and often it’s never enough. It just doesn’t feel right. Maybe that’s because we don’t know how we are supposed to be loved. Maybe we’ve never known because we’ve never truly loved ourselves well. Continue reading Love Yourself Or No One Will
There are moments that compel you to stop and absorb the details. It’s like something tells you “you’re going to want to remember this moment.” I had a couple moments like that last week, and I haven’t felt the same since. Continue reading The Finality Of A Full Stop
There’s this myth, this lie, that continually gets fed to all of us. We have all been the recipient, and the one dishing it. It’s something that becomes an enormous waste of your time. Sometimes it’s through our words, sometimes with our actions. We tell those who care about us “I really want to spend time with you, I’m just really busy right now.” But at the end of the day, everyone makes time for what, or who, they care about. Continue reading It’s Time To Stop Sucking At Friendship
Though I’m an introvert, I hate being alone all the time. I never want that. Historically, being alone a lot hasn’t been a good thing for me mentally or emotionally. I tend to go to darker places. But when I was thrust into doing life alone, I found out how badly I needed it. And I met myself there for quite possibly the first time in my life. Continue reading What I Learned By Being Alone